However, it's strange isn't it? Prison
rape, prison fantasies, conjugal visits and of course the idea of gay
for stay is always present. So unlike handicapped peoples, who in all
honesty are very much overlooked as sexual beings (I know I certainly
never thought of it before that thesis presentation), people in
prisons are often subject to sexualization but they have to act as
nonsexual beings while in prison. So what's the point in restricting
sexual activities of inmates? Or in my case women who live in halfway
houses. Isn't the point of correctional facilities to reintegrate?
Isn't sex and romance a part of normal life? Why are we completely
restricting the romantic relationships for people who are isolated
from their families and loved ones? The phrase gay for stay is there
for a reason though isn't it? Because it happens.
Of course not every relationship is
consensual and often times in prisons coercion, rape, protection and
intimidation often play a role in relationships. However, isn't the
penalty a bit harsh for people who are in consensual relationships?
There are heavy prices for these women who engage in sexual relations
with one another and get caught. They often have to serve more prison time
and a sexual assault or misconduct sentence. It seems like an Orange is the new Black
episode where the warden is so homophobic that the ladies are
continuously punished for acting on romantic urges. But why are these people, who we know are sexual beings, asked to become
dehumanized in these aspects? I know this is true of many other parts
of their lives as well, such as being told when to eat, what to wear
and where to be, but sex is often over looked.
I'm unsure what my stance is on the
subject. I know that power dynamics in relationships within
institutions are very damaging and that even without the power
dynamics there is always the awkwardness or bitterness that might
arise from a break up but these things also occur without sex as a
trigger. So is that really enough reason to restrict people's
romantic lives? I mean, the same bitterness and power struggles could
arise for any reason. So why the big restrictions which do little
more than make these people's lives a little bit more miserable,
sometimes even uprooting them from one facility to another and preventing them from ever possibly getting out of the system. Are these
people's lives so easily manipulated just because they're in prison?
Anyways, these are just my thoughts from work. I'd love to hear
anyone else's. And please do tell me if I have anything wrong. I know that I'm not an expert.